Making this due to all the wrong answers posted.
A 'Velvet Hammer' is a MAN who has the ability to beat someone senseless, but acts and dresses like an eloquent gentleman rather than a normal thug.

Somewhat similar to the 'Cultured Thug'
"That gentleman in the Armani suit turned out to be a real Velvet Hammer whenever that big brawl broke out in the club."
by Jackyjim January 9, 2022
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Velvet Hammer

Something you use on your gay lover to give him pleasure.
Scott I really like it when you give me your velvet hammer
by Rfrozy September 3, 2017
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An adult toy in which two consenting males engage in consensual anal activities . Also used to describe a homosexual male that hammers his partner like a hammer with the soft touch like velvet.
He hammered me like the velvet hammer that he his.
by PETTYMURPHY44 August 28, 2017
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