To spoon one's soup} is the sexual stimulation of one's own genitals (primarily, and usually female) for sexual arousal or other sexual pleasure, usually to the point of orgasm. The expression originates from the fact that when a person engages in the activity it sounds akin to putting and remove a spoon from soup (usually noodle soup)

A man who messes around with other men, but no one would ever know by looking or talking to him. Used by gay black men to identify masculine gay men or DL Brothas.