When you receive a chat notification on your phone, see the preview snippet, but are either too reticent or to read the full message. So the message is both simultaneously good and bad at the same time. This provides the reassurance required to continue to ignore the message.

When you eat dirt for the first time and leave your family to build a shack in the woods

A Schrodingers a Chat is when a chat is sorta dead but not dead enough to spam dead chat.