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Formerly associated with a particular psychological disorder stemming from years of percieved underappreciation and bitterness. A character flaw brought on by a person's inability to deal with their own bitterness, anger, or resentment in an assertive manner, thus, becoming a more passive form of hostility. See: petty, little bitch, worthless turd
This entry in urbandictionary is passive-aggressive because it was brought on by a coworker's passive-aggressive action against myself, and thus, is my form of counter attack. It is unlikely that the passive-aggressive asshat will see this, rendering such an action unassertive on my part, but it is highly probable that this will be seen by some more trustworthy coworkers and they will immediately empathize and agree that my definition (including the synonyms: little bitch and worthless turd) fully apply.
by QuietEar November 17, 2005
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A defense mechanism that allows people who aren't comfortable being openly aggressive get what they want under the guise of still trying to please others. They want their way, but they also want everyone to still like them.

Jane: It's time to go, we really should get going now.

Passive Aggressive Ann: Oh...okay. I just...well okay, I GUESS we can leave now.

Jane: Ann, do you want to stay? Is that what you're trying to get at?

Passive Aggressive Ann: Huh? Oh no, we can leave if YOU want. I just didn't get to do everything I wanted to do yet, but no no, we can go I guess.

Jane: God dammit Ann! Fine, we'll stay, are you happy?

Passive Aggressive Ann: Oh okay! Yeah! That sounds great too!
(Ann got her way without having to openly ask for it)
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Some of the most obnoxious and arrogant people in the world. An antisocial personality trait that narcissistic but jealous & insecure people use to gain advantage, because they cannot reveal their true personality. They are usually seen as nice people but are very evil and manipulative underneath their mask.

The ultimate goal of a passive-aggressive person is to try and build a reputation of nobility around people, while surrounding themselves with these same people who they eventually manipulate and control into doing things for them. see: sycophants, toady. The people they control unknowingly become their robots (tools of manipulation) without their consent or own realization. Passive-Aggressive people are very reliant on popularity and people; so that you are not subjected to attack them or destroy their ego.

Their lives are often very superfluous, parasitic & self-indulgent. They prize institutions in society that promote equal opportunities; while taking no risks. They can even be so clever as to hijack the whole entire institution completely; without other people even noticing. They see the world and people as a chessboard/strategy game. They often know how to stir up events and manipulate situations while remaining completely invisible and sitting pretty. See: shit stirrer

Passive-Aggressors are basically very extroverted but clever psychopaths. They tend to thrive on potential cut-throat scenarios and are (most definitely) ruthless opportunists.
A passive-aggressive person usually tries to play on a persons' insecurities and bring out their weak points in order to get a rise out of their victim. They usually try to appear nice around people while doing this; even the victim, so everybody else is blinded to it, but you. They will often even try to manipulate and make their friends fight each other out of jealousy, to test their own ability and control over them and the group. While maintaining an outward appearance/reputation of innocence.

The key to dealing with a passive-aggressive person, is to never tell them your personal info; and always ignore or never respond to them. Or pretend to be nice. (never provoke an argument to a passive-aggressor; this is exactly what they want; in order to make you look bad) Passive-aggressive people are very dangerous. They are people that seek power, popularity and often play a divide & conquer game; giving other people around you false gifts (so those people will like the passive-aggressive person more than you) while simultaneously trying to patronize you or make you look bad. This is a tactic they use so that they can win popularity from people; while passively belittling you and making it seem that you have no credibility or reputation to attack them back; so no one will believe you when you counterattack out of self-defense. They are skilled at hijacking friends to turn the world against you.
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act of doing something specifically to piss someone off, but with the cover of "I didn't realize it would bother you".
My roommate was talking shit on me, so when she was trying to study I blasted my music as loud as I could. I was being passive aggressive.
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When someone tries to annoy or hurt someone verbally by saying a put down in a coy or apparent unaware way.
Your mom is passive aggressive. She always acts sweet and then suttley mentions my three abortions in a matter of fact way.
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a phrase that originally described indirect acts of aggression that either could not be traced to the actor or that could be ascribed to a benign, non-spiteful motivation. Once the phrase entered the popular lexicon, it has come to describe any action or inaction that the speaker dislikes but which the speaker cannot explain why the action is unjust or otherwise wrong.
The following are examples of passive aggressive behavior.
1. My lab mate did not like my not obeying his every wish, so he got back at me by sabotaging my experiments.

2. She was angry at me for declining her date invitation so, at the party, she bumped my glass spilling wine on my shirt and said that it was an accident.

The following is an example of how "passive aggressive" has come to be used in the popular lexicon.

Person 1: "OMG, he like totally refuses to put the toilet seat down after he uses it, and then he gives me dirty looks when I tell him he needs to do that."

Person 2: "Is it any more effort for you to put the toilet seat down than it is for him to put the toilet seat up to avoid peeing all over it?"

Person 1: "He's just so passive aggressive."
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One who places an empty bowl of candy on the porch on Halloween.

Important Note: This is only considered spiteful, not passive-aggressive, unless the bowl is accompanied by a sign which reads, "Please take one"
I'm not going to place an example, but I am going to put out an empty bowl of candy with a sign that says, "Please take one." Why? Well, for one thing, it's pretty self-explanatory. But more importatnly, I'm passive-aggressive.
by hehehe666 October 30, 2005
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