A love or relationship that helps you realise your actual love for another. It is where you have been too distracted with your current partner to be mindful of anybody else, however, once the honeymoon period of the relationship passes, you realise the misdirection.

It works much the same as the misdirection used in a magic trick or a pickpocketing, where you realise that your watch or wallet is gone.

When you eat dirt for the first time and leave your family to build a shack in the woods