Elegant--meaning--Stylish, graceful and beautiful without being trashy, common, poised, mature, an air of confidence and/or sophistication.

Fapping--meaning--To jack off or masturbate.

The term in its self serves as an oxy moron such as jumbo shrimp or congress in progress. jacking off being a more manly events and elegance being the more femine thing.

A pick me is a woman that is willing to do anything for male approval. She will embarrass or throw other women under the bus to achieve this goal. The unfortunate thing about a pick me is usually the men they are trying to seek approval from are of poor quality and treat women badly, leaving little real benefit for the pick me.