Originating from lyrics in Ice-T's song "Don't Hate the Playa", it was taken as a motto by the Pick-Up/Seduction community as a way of saying "don't hate the guy who's using seduction technics, hate the system that made him do it".

It is both a justification and critic of the men-women social (and some would say biological) dynamics, that entices men (and sometimes women) learning and using highly elaborate methods, sometimes seen as manipulation or social engineering technics, for the main purpose of seducing a women (or man).

It is often justified as a mean to one's end by the argument that "women are wired either biologically or socially such a way that, you HAVE to follow or use particular steps or methods, either naturally or by learning them, in order to seduce a women". Some people going further argument that "women have no choice in the way their brain and emotion are biologically wired, meaning they have no choice in the way they respond to men and seduction, so men have sometimes no choice but to apply these seductions methods of which the practice is called The Game".
- "Man you really played hard to get with this girl"
- "Well don't hate the player, hate the game"
by Augure July 20, 2015
Get the Don't hate the player, hate the game mug.
Don't be mad at someone/something because they weren't the one that made you upset or hurt in the first place.
Ex. somebody cheating on someone, somebody losing a basketball game, etc.
Player 1: Girlfriend
Player 2: Boyfriend
Player 3: Side-Chick

Player1: * walks in on Player 2&3 having an affair *
" What the heck is going on here and who is this? "

Player 2: " Oh shoot, baby I am so sorry. "

Player 3: " Who is this!! Are you his girlfriend or something? "

Player 1: " Yes actually I am. Did you know that we were dating?"

Player 3: " No! He told me he was single and that he loved me,"

Player 1: " Well, that's ok. I don't hate the player, hate the game!! "
by anothergalfromdahood July 10, 2018
Get the don't hate the player, hate the game mug.
1. A simple excuse for anything.
2. Also coined in rap, drop hate on anything but other rappers.
1. "Dude WTF?!"
"Don't hate the player, hate the game.
2. Yo' man I ain't ever gonna diss your name
Cuz I'm not hating players, I'm hating the game
by error405 March 1, 2016
Get the Don't hate the player, hate the game mug.
What I, or some of us say when a your sweetness found out thinks aren't so sweet..
Girl: What the f!ck are you messing around with that five dollar tittie girl

Me: He honey listen,

don't hate the player hate the game

Me: Opens door, giving the same kiss she will never forget, and say "Call you beautifull"

Me: Driving off with 220 Km/h, Music play's in the background " It's Seven O'Clock on the DOT, i'm in my Audi TT cruisin' the street" Calling the other one on THE list, the holy of holy's :

My phone!
by D-TT February 23, 2007
Get the don't hate the player hate the game mug.