When a female takes a male back to her room or goes back to his room, but does not want to sleep with him and instead calms him down or deflects his advances by giving him a defensive handjob. It is only a defensive handjob however if the evening's activities stop there, for instance intercourse immediately changes it from a defensive handjob to the normal foreplay variety of handjob.

A casual invitation / threat used by an individual that is not afraid of fucking someone up.