“Gay men tend to be attracted to everything about a man, the sights, the sounds, the smells, the feet (eiw), the socks (double eiw) and on and on. Everything man, all day, everyday. They want to hold hands with a man, kiss a man and build a life with a man.

Men like my husband are not at all interested in kissing and holding hands and being romantic with a fellow. He cannot even envision it. He has never topped a guy because he does not feel he could maintain an erection to fuck a man. He does, however, love the DICK. The term I made up for this is "cocksexual.” Men who love the cock and the sex part but the male body and appearance is not the same turn on that a female’s body is.

This explains the prevalence of tgirl porn and gloryholes. A woman with a penis. A penis in space with no male body. There’s a rather large and interesting audience of cocksexuals. Why else would porn just show COCK?

I consider myself pansexual, in that I am attracted to men and women and I would have a relationship with anyone of any orientation if I liked that person. I have met very few men like me, although it exists. Men are more about the cock. Kinda turns me on.“

The two states of being are as a human being, or a hungry ghost. Semi-regularly you need to ask yourself which you are. Sometimes it is human. Others, alas, it is hungry ghost.

The hungry ghost seeks validity outside of themselves. Someone pining for an indifferent ex is a hungry ghost. Someone who arrives alone at 6:30 on Saturday night to a pub is probably a hungry ghost. Obsessive checking of mobile phones, chat sites or networks are clear signs that one is a hungry ghost.

The best thing to do is just stay home and ride it out. Read a book. Find some good clean fun.