A low-ranking, low-commitment variety of handjob, wherein the female (or male) masturbates the male's erect penis by grasping it through his underpants. This results in the penis being stimulated primarily by the rubbing of cloth against skin. Depending on the male's tactile sensitivity (as well as his desperation), and on the female's adroitness, this act can range from only mildly uncomfortable to quite uncomfortable.

to tell someone to calm down and relax.