A condition where a persons lacks the social capabilites of their age group.
Some people think aspies "don't have any personality" or "have no social skills". Which can really hurt the aspies feelings. Aspies often don't have the unanxiousness to express their personality freely. A lot of aspies sense of humour is different, because they often take things literally, and sometimes don't pick up on sarcasm quickly. (Which is often compensated by the aspie finding every other kind of humour more funny than others seem to). Humour is very important for social interactions and connecting with others. Some people with mild aspergers can have the potential to be unusually successful.
However, NT's lack the aspie charm, that can come from the combination of intelligence and naivete. A lot of NT's don't have the loyalty of someone with aspergers syndrome, which can be a surprisingly rare and highly desired trait in the eyes of many people. Aspies often have integrity, originality and many other good traits. I also think there is a good side to seemingly lacking empathy (that is lacking the theory-of-mind of an NT), and that is that the person who has more than average theory-of-mind is a psycopath.
Most of the time aspies often have a good nature, so please don't hurt them. If the aspie is causing damage without any bad intention behind it, you don't have to abuse them and you don't have to help them either. Just politely keep them out of your life, WITHOUT SAYING ANYTHING THAT DAMAGE THEIR SELF ESTEEM. This does not take effort. I don't think there is an unhurtful way to point out the lagging social skills to the aspie. (Unless you love them and are prepared to put in the time and effort). I hope that people just let the aspie eventually work out in which areas they need to change them selves. At the same time, I hope that anyone who is having unintentional damage done to their life by an aspie, does not let that aspie in their life any further.
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