The American English equivalent to the common, polite Thai expression, "mai pen rai", meaning "it doesn't matter"; an easily accessible communication tool for re-grounding in the midst of a circular, escalating, non-productive, manipulative, or highly emotional argument.

When one partner calmly terminates with "Whatever" (humorous, non-aggro Valley Girl accent, one eye roll, and heavy sigh acceptable), it allows both participants to remember that their separate "ego chatter" and the subsequent discomfort of those primitive "fight or flight" endocrine hormones surging now through them - is an illusion, all Maya.

"Whatever" is the new Western mantra to allow those in our culture to wake up, surrender, let go of the futile need to be "right", to sit in the silence of the moment and return to the underlying reality of love, unity, and connection. Words are increasingly inadequate in this age of “The Quickening.” We have evolved much faster than our spoken language. A simple, compassionately delivered "Whatever" can still that inner turmoil, allow deep breathing to return, help each partner to regain balance and perspective, and reconnect to each other in a more profound and constructive way, through touch, music, art, dance, and lovemaking. Try it! Although many define the term as negative, harsh, cowardly, or maddening, it doesn't have to be! It's not that way in Thailand. Look at it from a different angle.
Valerie: Todd, when I'm calmly trying to tell you for the umpteenth time what my basic needs are, why must you always turn the conversation around, change the subject, and start blaming me for something I'm not even talking about? Why is it always about you and your needs?

Todd: About my needs!? Oh! Like when you had to stay in bed all morning and too damn lazy to move, you started yelling at me at the top of your lungs when I was in the kitchen, screaming at me to take the trash cans out to the curb? Who is the bad guy here!! Huh? Can you ever take responsibility for your shit?!!

(heated exchange back and forth going nowhere)

Valerie: Whatever...
Valerie: (Wordless now, she reaches out to touch and hold Todd's hand, then embraces him, gets up and turns some soft music on, lights a candle, smiles at Todd, lights some incense. Todd starts to relax and they both shrug and start laughing and then...)
by kamakinky March 12, 2010
A way for a girl to tell a guy go ahead, but secretly don't want them to do what they want to do.
Boyfriend: "I'm sorry I did that babe"
Girlfriend: "Whatever, It doesn't matter"
Boyfriend: "No talk to me"
by TheOneWhoGotCheatedOn March 14, 2010
noun. anything that captures a teenage males attention span. i.e. gaming, hanging, chilling, etc. primarily consists of oneself sitting around on their ass eating anything and doing absolutely nothing
"sup?"
"nm, just doing whatever"
by theCanadianWerewolf November 20, 2007
the thing you say when you start thinking too much
Bob: Do you want to go to the candy store?

Jan: Are you high?

Bob: Whatever.
by paul goldschmidt December 12, 2014
A word sometimes used to hide or conceal true feelings.
"Hey, I heard you and your boyfriend broke up how are you?"
"Oh I mean it's whatever, you know"
by GnarlyToad February 23, 2015
Whatever can mean "I don't really care" (example 1)
Whatever can also meant "Fuck You" (example 2)
PERSON 1: Where do you want to go for dinner?
PERSON 2: Whatever, i'm not really hungry?

PERSON 1: It's you're fault we got pulled over last night.
PERSON 2: Whatever, if you would have just let me drive then we would have made it home no problem.
by HEINS 57 June 28, 2011
a word you use when you have no other comeback to say to someone who just dissed you big time. same with shut up.
are we siamese twins?" "no" "then y r u always next to me?" "whatever!
by justinsgurlie January 08, 2011
This is the verb version of the verb. It's used to shorten the telling of stories when the phrase "And then I just said 'Whatever'" is used. Instead you can use this word to make stories more concise for your friends.
And then I just whateved.
OMG, you were totally whateved.
I'll just whatever her.
Sorry, I'm currently whatevering someone, hahah.
by schroedingers-cat August 12, 2013

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