Self-pity is an icky liquid you swim around in when you blame the world for your problems.
People who wallow in self-pity usually go around in a bad mood, feeling sorry for themseleves, feeling they've been wronged some how. They only care about poor little them. They failed because of someone or something else. They don't own up to their own faults.
Darnell: If the teachers in my school would have payed me more attention and got the big bullies off my back, then I wouldn't have been full of self-pity, dropped out, robbed that store, killed 3 people including a child, and got into a police chase that lasted 4 hours and 23 minutes then became an on-foot pursuit through a backyard in the projects where I was tackled then sentenced to prison where I'm getting my ass slamed for 237 years and cleaning the toilet with a toothbrush for my cellmate named Deshawn who makes me pee sitting down.
Mom: k...Dad says hi.
Infants have self-pity. You could say having self-pity is you reverting back to your childhood. Worrying about things that don't even matter in the long run, you allow yourself to be overcome, and others to walk over you in whatever way they wish. Self-pity can be imagined too, it doesn't have to be real. Whatever, you never allow yourself to live.
It can lead to an inferiority complex.
Don't you ever want to have any fun? Self-pity's got to go!
Probably the worst f**king place on this Earth. Happens normally to caring, nice guys. Girl examples are rare, but not unheard of. In most cases, the guy loves the girl, and cares about her greatly. However, due to this action, today's female will often see this as a friend-like behavior, or not realize the love he has for her. The male does everything for the girl, would always be there for her, and yet the girl doesn't seem to give two shits about his side of the story. He has continually listen to her moan and bitch about her asshole boyfriend, and how she wish she had a caring, nice one. This is normally where the male either excuses himself to go wallow in self pity, or explodes in anger at the female, confessing his love for the girl in the process. In this case, the talk usually ends with "You're a nice, caring guy, but you're more like a friend/brother to me." Which confuses the hell out of the guy, because she was just complaining about wanting a nice, caring boyfriend. All in all, a hell on earth for nice guys.
Girl: Oh my gosh Johnny, I don't understand why Bill is being such an asshole. I wish I could have a nice, caring boyfriend."
(example 1)Nice caring Johnny: "Well, I'm sure you'll find him someday." (Thinks: He could be sitting next to you...) "Hey, but I have to go wallow in self-pity in the friend zone--I mean wash the dishes."
(Example 2)Nice caring Johnny: "Oh my god Katelyn if you really wanted one, I could've been there! I have loved you for a long time, and I always have to hear you bitch about all of your asshole boyfriends, and I'm sick you you coming to me. If you wanted a caring boyfriend, I would gladly have been it. Why not give me a fucking chance?"
Girl: I'm sorry, you're a nice caring guy and all, but you're more like a friend/brother to me."
Nice caring Johnny: "WTF?! You make NO fucking sense bitch!"
Pity for oneself; especially exaggerated or self-indulgent pity where you believe that you are the victim who has done no wrong and is deserving of condolence from everyone.
"Self-pity is easily the most destructive of the non-pharmaceutical narcotics; it is addictive, gives momentary pleasure and separates the victim from reality"
For a prime example of self-pity, see Nice Guy.
|5.||First Rule of Self Pity|
“No one wants to hear about your troubles unless your troubles are worse than theirs.
When a University of Chicago law professor blogged his complaints about making ends meet with a household income of more than a quarter of a million dollars a year, he violated the First Rule of Self Pity.
An expression of sympathy. Not necessarily sad nor happy, it can describe self-pity or be a reply of empathy. It is ideally used when "yes" or "no" is not appropriate but yet the situation still requires some conclusion.
Self-pity: "Bleh" - I'm bored, tired and agitated but I'n not ready to shut-up and go home yet.
Reply: "Bleh" - I hear you and I feel for you, man!
In the uncomfortable quiet of a dying conversation, instead of farting, the word "bleh" just completes the situation.
|7.||self loathing heaves|
The feeling one gets when they empty out the spit valve of their musical instrument (a trumpet or trombone, for example) and find that spit is not the only thing that is coming out. The realization that someone has taken it upon themselves to jerk off onto the mouthpiece and into the instrument comes quickly. The accompanying feelings that the person has include (in this order) disbelief, extreme sorrow, rage, hate for the whole world, fear, pity, nausea and other phsycial sickness, and finally self hatred. The self loathing heaves are a thing that many people don't even wish on their worst enemy.
After a long day of enforcing city health codes, Hansel decided to jam out for a while. He grabbed his trumpet and began belting out some songs. He emptied out the spit valve and his life took a considerable turn for the worse. As soon as he figured out someone had given him a "gift", he immediately got the self loathing heaves. He cried himself to sleep that night.