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1.
Your female partner, life partner, significant other who you are not married to but eternally committed to and who you may or may not have a child with.

To be used in place of girlfriend, lady friend, significant other, or partner.
"My not-wife made the best pasta last night." "My not-wife wants to have another baby."
by Mo Mentum January 04, 2013