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adj. mensao·er, mensao·est.

1. The public act of a subdued nature, of low intensity and strength esp. when one is not inherently so.
My boyfriend is the epitome of mensaoness; he is the most chivalrous of men in public but he is like an animal when we are alone together.
by lucia.loves.phil May 29, 2011