Love evolved from being pure sex at the younger state of the human back in prehistory, then through societies were born, the idea of living as a couple came up as a way to live more easily (and possibly have sex more easily) and as time went by, the different cultural influences over time brought love to what it is today, although it differs from country to country, and from person to person: to some of them it is only sex, while to other its a huge "feeling" that has nothing to do with sex. Even though love started from sex, we "created" it into something that has more or less to do with sex. Through these cultural influences, people limit their possibilities in life by putting "invisible laws" such as "no sex with other people", "only one lover" as the idea of making someone "one special person" is very big, and there is much more restrictions to love than those 2.
In north america, love is usually a "strong feeling" towards another person, people get to know others usually before "Going out" and their love is based off something else than sex, although sex is included in the extremly huge majority of couples.
In Japan, people go out before knowing eachother and they learn about eachother after.
In some islamic countries and India(?) , men can have several wives. This is NOT "fucked up", this is normal to them, do not take something as a real truth because you have been seeing only one side of the story your whole life, be open.
Many philosophers and psychologists think love is a human creation, my psychology teacher even said "the only difference between love and friendship is sex" , which is definitly true. This refers to my "restrcitions people put on themselves with love" however.
Now, if you believe love is a human creation, youd probably be better not telling it to your girlfriend if shes not open minded and crazy about love, because she'll probably go apeshit like my friend's girlfriend (although it was only for a second)
A theory i have about the evolution of love: My french teacher told us about people starting to treat women nicely back in the middle ages, I forgot how they were called, but it was back in the years 1000ies. Those people pretty much just flirted with the girls, doign nice things for them etc. If you read old books from the middle ages, you'll see that the extremly huge majority of books (at least ive never seen one thats different..) show love just as being a physical attraction and nothing more, men love women because they are beautiful, women love men because they are beautiful or they saved their life somehow, this shows the evolution of love and is probaly another determining point that led to the love we have today.
Remember, even if i say love is a human creation, i don't say love doesn't exist, we invented it and therefore it exists. Too many people tell me "Well i think love exists so i don't believe it is a human creation". Love being a human creation does not make it lame or worse, if anything this probably makes your understanding of love much better as you'll actually be eable to explain it. Love is still a wonderful thing and im happy for every lovers out there (of course, the lovers who live in a culture where love is a good thing ^^)
Love is an incredibly powerful word. When you're in love, you always want to be together, and when you're not, you're thinking about being together because you need that person and without them your life is incomplete.
This love is unconditional affection with no limits or conditions: completely loving someone. It's when you trust the other with your life and when you would do anything for each other. When you love someone you want nothing more than for them to be truly happy no matter what it takes because that's how much you care about them and because their needs come before your own. You hide nothing of yourself and can tell the other anything because you know they accept you just the way you are and vice versa.
It's when they're the last thing you think about before you go to sleep and when they're the first thing you think of when you wake up, the feeling that warms your heart and leaves you overcome by a feeling of serenity. Love involves wanting to show your affection and/or devotion to each other. It's the smile on your face you get when you're thinking about them and miss them.
Love can make you do anything and sacrifice for what will be better in the end. Love is intense,and passionate. Everything seems brighter, happier and more wonderful when you're in love. If you find it, don't let it go.
That word is love.
2.) A feeling that will not be returned to me...
You have great chemistry:
You get lost in your conversations, and the hours pass like minutes. You're more than willing to listen to her when she talks about her day. The chemistry between you is remarkable.
You find her beautiful:
Even if you catch her with no makeup on and her hair pulled back while she's unclogging a toilet, she still looks beautiful to you.
You want to spend time with her:
All you want to do is to be with her, whether you're having sex or not. Even if she tells you that sex will have to wait, you don't care.
You see a future together:
You experience the strange feeling that your life would be totally empty without her. You tell your friends and family that she may be The One, and you're even thinking about marrying her.
You introduce her to your family:
It becomes very important to you that your parents like her, and that she gets along with everyone close to you.
You include her in all your plans:
Whether you're going out with your male friends or taking your dog for a walk, you want her there with you. And if she's not there, you can't get her off your mind and sneak off to give her a quick "I miss you" phone call. Of course, you don't tell your buddies.
You are more romantic:
All of a sudden you find yourself listening to cheesy romantic songs and thinking of her. You send her flowers and love notes to work and set up romantic evenings candlelit dinners at home.
You always take her side:
If someone says anything even slightly disparaging about her, you immediately rise to her defense. Furthermore, in social gatherings, you always agree with her even if you disagree behind closed doors.
She makes you want to be a better man:
She challenges and motivates you. She makes you happy, and you'd do anything to make her happy.