if a lesbian and a man who is not 'lesbiann man' see a attractive woman in a bar, and they are both sober and confident, then the man will be the most likely to attempt to chat her up.
this is because the man is sure that she is more likely to be heterosexual, unless he inadvertently walked into a bar called 'she*she' or something.
a lebian woman will not want to embarrass herself because there is a very small chance, if any, that this woman will be gay, or inclined unless drunk and suggestive. therefore, the poor lesbian woman goes home empty handed. if they continue this mindset of women shunning them because of their sexual preferences, then they will find it hard to pluck up the courage to ask a woman for company etc.
LESBIAN MAN is not gay. he just has the same mindset as a lesbian woman. he is attracted to women, but he is too nervous to ask them out because subconsciously, he feels like a lesbian, and is too nervous to ask them for company, for fear of rejection. but he is not sure why. he just lacks the confidence to even risk running the chance of disappointment.
man- urm erm ar er huh? yea-yeah-yes
woman- oooooookaay. walks off
'to girls' bit of a lesbian man