Here is what I find interesting about this word. It's meaning keeps changing over time, effectively downgrading the expectations of a gentleman to reflect societies changing expectations (lowering expectations).

The first use and meaning of "gentleman" is number 1 below, which is completely obsolete and out of use for about 200 years.

Numbers 2 through 4 are still in use with older generations today, but are foreign concepts to young people under 30 IMO.

People under 30 today don't (IMO) even know what a gentleman is, but the word still exists and the Andrew Dice Clay joke about it reflects a funny, and possibly realistic new standard of what a young gentleman is today. It's sad, but also funny too. May as well enjoy the laughs where we can.

1) A man who is gentry, nobility (but not royalty), upperclass.

2) A civilized, educated, sensitive, well-mannered man AND he has high social standing. That's a high standard. Probably the standard back in the days of my great grandparents and before.

3) Since lowered to mean any of the qualities of number 2, but no longer requires all of them.

4) A man of good behavior who is considerate of others. This is the definition my grandmother taught me.

5) A modern "gentleman" today is (as the trend continues) held to a lower, ever more modest standard than before.

I'll give a couple examples of a modern day young "gentleman".
Examples of number 5 type modern "gentleman":

Andrew Dice Clay joked that a modern day gentleman is a man who takes the dishes out of the sink before he pees in it.

My girlfriend and I joke that a gentleman always applies lube before fucking his GF in her ass (with or without her consent), and before he accidentally chocks her aka rodeos her.

I'm a mix of old school and modern gentleman. I'm to kind to slap a woman's face or breasts. The idea of such a thing apalls me because it could injure her, and hitting those areas is off limits, even for fun. However, I do love slapping her ass good and hard (with my hand). If she screams and cries a little, that's a great aphrodisiac, but no woman ever got injured from a hand slap on the bottom.

The expectations of gentleman today are so low that I can be a modern day gentleman and an old school jerk simultaneously.

This is all a reflection of society's values in decline, IMO. Such that women my own age think (and tell me) I'm slightly a jerk, while younger women think (and tell me) I'm sweet (i.e. - a gentleman). I treat women exactly the same, regardless of their age. At least until the young women start acting appreciative of my "gentlemanly" ways. At that point I probably do treat them better because they treat me better.

From the point of view of young women, I can see their point. Compared to the typical young male brutes today, I am relatively a gentleman. Even though by old school standards, I'm a bit of a jerk.

The word "gentleman" is in decline along with the rest of society's values. Try to see the irony and humor in things because that makes life easier.
by CBthree July 26, 2009
A man who shaves his genetalia for his significant other.
Becky: So, I went to go suck Dave's cock and he had shaved it, AND his balls, he's such a gentleman.
by meowmix1337 June 11, 2016
A man of calm demeanor who demonstrates good will toward others and practices the common courtesies of the society in which he inhabits. One who keeps his word when given and defends the honor of his name while using violence as only the last resort.
Your daughter will be home at eleven sir. I give you my word as a gentleman.
by TGC (The Gentleman's Club) October 25, 2015
A person who is eminently capable of playing bagpipes, but for obvious reasons of taste, sensibility and the ongoing good of all mankind deigns not to.
"I just found out that Jim can play bagpipes, but he never does - what an absolute gentleman!"
by digthetripe April 08, 2015
stephen wrote the book of gentleman many years ago, the first copy was published in the mid 1800's and read by over 70% of the worlds population - here in 2010 a copy of this book is very hard to come by, people believe every book in existance was destroyed in a bid to keep 'gentlemanizm' unknown, only a select few have had the art of gentleman sent down to them throughout the generations. Stephen Plank, the creator of the book still lives, it is predicted he is over 5 thousand years old
"that stephen plank sure is a gentleman"- quote by an anonymous gentleman plank fan
by nomnomnomage April 14, 2010
Current definition: A polite man.
Original definition: A man who doesn't work for a living, polite to his peers only because he has to be.
Lord Fopington was a gentleman in the original sense of the word. His days were spent fox hunting, abusing his servants and inbreeding.
by Luke B February 24, 2013
An inexpensive drink combination, most bartenders should know: the cheapest beer and a shot of the cheapest whiskey at the bar.
I've only got $6, so I think I'd better order the Gentleman.
by PauGen November 28, 2010
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