Often thought of as passive, dulcet, timid little things with long locks of hair; prissy dresses; great big fawn eyes; a high, baby-doll voice; the courage of a lamb and the intelligence of a gardenia. But we're all human, so don't expect that stereotype of finding every femme to be submissive, faint-hearted little fairies. Plenty of femmes kick butt and are even the dominant over their butch partners.
Butch(In a gruff contralto)- "Coming, babe!"
(Bedroom door closes. Butch and femme are together.)
Femme(in a strong, husky alto)- "C'mere, you animal!" (Pulls her butch onto the bed and climbs on top of her.)
"Yeah, he's pretty femme after all."
"She's a femme, but don't let the pretty hair and short skirt fool you. She's a total domme."
n.) A person (male, female or other) who identifies and/or presents a femme gender identity.
v.) To actively embody a femme identity or gender presentation.
adj.) intentionally, cleverly feminine. Feminine in a non-traditional way--or referring to something/one male (or non-female) that/whom is related to or embodies a conscious femininity.
v.) think: drag performances by gay men dressed as women. OR a woman dolling herself up for a hot date--lipstick, heels and all--getting ready to go out with her girlfriend who doesn't really care if she dresses up, but who will be the subject of jealous glances all night because of it.
(colloquialism: femme it up!-- def.) make it more outrageously girly/ a more outrageous parody of culturally prescribed femininity)
adj.) think: that cute gayboy who wears a sparkly Princess tee-shirt that is two sizes too small, but he can rock it anyway. (OMG that shirt is soo femme!) OR that punk chick who may be wearing an outfit entirely from the little boy's section of Marshalls, but who looks more girly in a kid size 10 tee-shirt, ripped jeans and chucks than some women manage to do in their skirts and heels. (she's sure made that one femmed out tee-shirt, it just looks so different than on my nine year old nephew.)
lesbian stereotype - butch and femme
The Stud is the girl as a boy and the Femme is the girl in the relationship