When a lesbian dresses in a traditionally feminine way, many people may assume that she is straight. She may also be told that she is "too pretty to be gay". As a result, she may become invisible to other lesbians because she does not fit the stereotypical "butch" role and/or does not date "butch" women.
What I suffer from on a daily basis.
1: So do you have a boyfriend?
2: No, I'm a lesbian
1: Wow! I would have never guessed!
2: I know, I suffer from femme invisibility