An ex-gay is someone with a homosexual orientation who typically enters a conversion program / ministry / therapy in an attempt to become heterosexual. Not all (but most) conversion programs are religiously based.

Although there is no question one's behavior and how they view themselves may change, there is a great deal of controversy if an ex-gay's core sexual orientation and attractions can ever change. Many ex-gays are little more than celibate homosexuals who continue to struggle while others are now married to members of the opposite sex and have "traditional" appearing families.

Ex-gays are disproportionally white, male and Christian. However conversion programs exist for secular and Jewish individuals as well as lesbians.
Randy was once an out gay man but has since left that, entered conversion therapy and is now an ex-gay and married to a woman.

by Daniel S. Gonzales September 17, 2006
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A person who goes through a Christian ministry designed to convert them from homoseuxality to heterosexuality. Most psychological and psychiatric professionals believe such ministries to be ineffective and actually dangerous to the psyches of ex-gays.
"Isn't it sad that most ex-gay spokespeople have been exposed secretly having gay sex or hanging out in gay bars?"
by atheid August 25, 2004
Alternate spelling for ex-gay.
Randy was once an out gay man but has since left that, entered a conversion ministry and is now an exgay and married to a woman.
by Daniel S. Gonzales September 17, 2006
The term "exgay" is a socio-political derivative of the term "gay". In the sixties, American homosexuals adopted use of the term gay in an attempt to reduce or destroy the negative psychological and perhaps religious connotations, associated with the word homosexual. Thus, the word gay helped to form a "positive" image necessary for the advancement of political goals.

No one is sure how the term "exgay" first became to be applied to men and women who made choices to no longer desire homosexual activity or identity, but the term stuck and is now widely used by homosexual activists --primarily in mocking quotes-- to indicate they do not believe such change in behavior or thought is possible.
Exgay is, for the many who do believe that the choice to change is possible, an uncomfortable expression of who they are (and are becoming). The great majority of exgays believe their change to be the product of religious belief and faith rather than socio-political posturing. This includes those from Jewish, Muslim and non-Evangelical Christianity belief groups.

Because the majority of former homosexuals attribute their change to religious conversion, the term exgay has no such applicable identification with religion in its fundamental usage.
Linda has been exgay for 13 years.
by DL Foster September 19, 2006
someone that used to be bi or gay
so you used to like it up the ass but now you're an ex-gay?
by ninjaloverpirate January 26, 2010
Someone who chooses to no longer have intimate interactions with those of the same gender and orientation. This person may also pursue heterosexual relationships in the process.

Gary used to have a boyfriend, but he dumped his boyfriend because he is now ex-gay.
by Brej September 02, 2005
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