I define emo as someone who is emotionally and/or mentally depressed. Not every person who is depressed is emo, but the ones who grow their depression and problems to 9000 times the size that they truly are and then tell other people about said problems so they can people to feel sorry for them. In some ways, they are alike geek and nerds, for I can see some geeks and nerds becoming emos if they are bullied repeatedly or thrust away from the real world.
Emos usually keep to themselves as much as possible but would converse with other emos if they have to. They wear darker clothing and/or articles of clothing that sticks them out from a crowd of people. They try to attain positive attention this way, or recognition from others that they are 'emo' and should be feared because they are different. In this way, emos can be compared with scene people.
Emos think negative thoughts most of the time, viewing the glass half empty and much smaller. They believe themselves to be different than any other human being, and so they decide on acting differently. They will act out in public, scare people, carry weapons, wear clothes no one else wears. In this way, they are like goths, but goths are more violent and hatred in their ways, actually going farther than any emo has.
Emos destroy themselves from inside out from beginning to bully themselves mentally and verbally, then they work on to mental pain through real events in their lives, then physical pain and suffering, and after that its not impossible that they will commit suicide or go completely insane and think like only few people do. Perverted thoughts fill their heads; ones of killing people they have been hurt by, killing people in mass numbers, and the death of loved ones to give themselves pain every now and then. It sounds like a television show where the main character obtains certain powers and then tries to save the world/destroy it, and figure out someone they loved or a relative of a loved one is dead because of said main character's actions.
Well, George, my whole family is into being Catholic, but I totally disagree with their religion. And they won't stop hating me for it! They can't just hate me because I want to live my own life the way I want to! I just don't fxxxing understand why my parents hate their youngest son like this! I really wish that....(A while and lots of moping and wallowing-in-one-self's-pity later) You see, that's why I decide to be emo and to cut myself and bleed over the Holy Cross.
Oh, well won't you look at the time! I have to get going! See ya later Fred, hope you fix out the kinks with you parents!
1. Girls say they like "sensitive guys" (lie)
2. Guy finds out, so he listens to faggy emo music and dresses like a dork so chicks will see that he is sensitive and not afraid to express himself (lie). He dyes his hair black, wraps himself in a stupid looking scarf, develops an eating disorder, and rants about how "nobody understands".
3. Now an emo guy, he meets Emo chick and they start dating, talking about how their well-off suburban lifestyles are terrible and depressing (lie)
4. Emo guy is just too much of a pussy. His penis is too small, he's too depressed to bathe, and has more mood swings than emo chick, and he doesn't even have a menstrual cycle. Emo chick dumps him, saying "It's not you, it's me." (lie) as she drives off with Wayne, the school jock and captain of the football team.
5. Emo guy goes home and cries, proceeds to write a weak song and strum a single string on his acoustic guitar. Another emo chick sees how he is so in touch with his feelings, and the cycle continues.
This is the sad truth of the emo lifestyle/music, and now that I look at how pathetic it really is, maybe the emos DO have something to cry about!
boyfriend: I'm too sad to have sex.
girlfriend: I'm sad too; lets have sex and cry.
boyfriend: I'm already crying.
XxSlavetoAnguishxX: omg my gf just left me
acidburnedsoul: that sux man
XxSlavetoAnguishxX: i blame myself only i'm such an ass *cries*
acidburnedsoul: dude come over to my house and we can cut ourselves together
XxSlavetoAnguishxX: okay *cries*
acidburnedsoul: omg dashboard confessional has a new cd, i preordered it already
XxSlavetoAnguishxX: dude they're my favorite band to self-mutilate to
acidburnedsoul: i prefer to cut myself while watching Napoleon Dynamite on my bigscreen
XxSlavetoAnguishxX: dude that movie is so deep. i cry every time i see it
acidburnedsoul: me too. i hate myself
XxSlavetoAnguishxX: yeah we're such tortured souls, nobody understands how hard life is for us
acidburnedsoul: yeah we got it tough dude. pass the tissues
I just thought I'd clear that up after all of these "definitions" in which I have encountered an unbelievable amount of people who try to pass off their blatantly false pretenses as fact, and are slowly infecting others with their high-horse, holier-than-thou bullshit. Because honestly, with your ridiculous definitions, Beethoven, George Gershwin, and Britney Spears are/was "emo bands."
Now, onto the real definition.
In the early 90s there was a movement in the hardcore genre that came to be known as "Emotive Hardcore," spearheaded by Rites Of Spring. Harder-core-than-thou kids, who swore by Dischord Records a la Minor Threat, actually coined the term "Emo" as something of a put-down for the kids who really liked Rites Of Spring, Indian Summer and this new wave of "Emotive" Hardcore bands. That's right, "Emo" was once not something kids called themselves. The field exploded outwards from there - Level-Plane Records has always been the most famous Emo label. Acts like Yaphet Kotto, I Hate Myself, Saetia, Hot Cross, A Day In Black And White, Funeral Diner, I Would Set Myself On Fire For You, You And I, and hosts of others came in the next decade. Most emo bands have since broken up, but there's still the occasional hold-out (again, the majority of Level-Plane Records' roster has been a procession of emo acts). Like most DIY hardcore/punk of the time, a majority found its way onto vinyl and not much else. Some people consider bands like Fugazi, and later Sunny Day Real Estate, a progression of emo, but personally, I don't quite follow that philosophy.
Often, more recently, this gets intertwined with post-hardcore, and understandably so - that's nothing to make an issue of, since well shit, at least it's close.
Since the late 90s, though, bands have been emerging in the vein of Taking Back Sunday, Dashboard Confessional, and the thousands of their clones. As far as I can tell, some lazy journalist somewhere, writing an article about them, decided "Well, fuck, no one knows what emo is anyways, so I'll call these bands "emo" - sounds more appealing than bubblegum pop rock..." and the spiral continued downwards into the current amalgomation of bands MTV has told everyone is "emo."
Somehow, people decided that "emo" meant "emotional," which is obviously bullshit, as 99% of bands make music to illicit emotion, which would make "emotional" a completely all-encompassing genre from classical to opera to pop to rap.
Hope that helps.
Rites of Spring is emo.