Usually the obsessive preoccupation is guided by a need to prove that they are the "ultimate womanizer" and can have any woman they want regardless what a woman "thinks" they need.
II. A man who by nature is homosexual, but is not accepting of his personal disposition. He attempts to find a lesbian woman who hopefully is of the same personal disposition for acceptance.
Here comes Kayla with Joseph. She's gay and he is also...I think - because he seems overly interested in her than she is him. She is definitely being dyke-shriked - and she knows it.