The cuts usually start out as scratches but can escalate to deep lacerations, the deeper cuts and scars represent how "hardcore" the person is and how severe their problems are. These same people usually minimize or belittle the people who only "scratch" themselves.
Since Abuse or mental illness remove responsibility from the cutter, these are the first things a cutter blames for their actions. The parent who demands good grades is "too controlling" or "can never be satisfied" or "thinks I'm not good enough." The mental illness (bi-polar, manic depression) requires medication and the cutter is really the innocent victim.
Some cutters hide their cuts and some don’t. A quick look at MySpace or Facebook photos will tell you what kind of cutter the person is. The attention seeking cutter will always have pics of scars or poems with innuendos about cutting.
David: That sux, I'm going to only brothers memorial Saturday, he was shot while serving in Iraq. He was like the father I never had. He wanted me to get good grades and go to college, I loved him.
Cutter: yeah my asshole father bugs me about grades too, no wonder I'm all screwed up.
David: I'm sorry life dealt you such a terrible hand.
Cutter: me too
Cutting is not something one advertises, and when someone does cut they are generally ashamed and hide it as well as they can.
Can be done with any sharp object, such as, but not limited to, knives, razors, broken glass, broken cd's, scissors, and safety pins.
AnotherGirl: Yea...I spied on her in the shower and she had slashes all over her thighs... she so cuts herself...
It is usually a symptom of mental illness.
The vast majority of self-injurers hurt themselves out of negative emotions, including, but not limited to, anger, self-hatred, depression, or numbness; they also try to hide the cuts with clothing, jewelry, or make-up. Some misled persons cut themselves for attention, or to make themselves look cool, which warrants pity, not scorn. Some fit into both categories. Cutters who do not hide their injuries do not necessarily fit into the latter group; they have often given up trying to hide it, or regard it as something that should not be hidden, either because it is a valid "lifestyle choice" or because they are not ashamed of their pain, even though they want to stop.
Cutting and other forms of self-injury, such as burning, eating disorders*, banging, and hair-pulling, can be a coping mechanism for many. It is NOT a suicide attempt, and some suicidal people hurt themselves so that they can cope with their emotions and _avoid_ suicide.
Cutters can not be categorized by age, gender, appearance, or clique. Some self-injurers have been doing it as long as they can remember, i.e. as toddlers, and there are cutters who are in their thirties and probably older. They are male and female. They are preps, nerds, skaters, goths, punks, and any other label you can think of. They are parents, small children, and yes, teenagers.
*This is not to say that all people with eating disorders should be regarded as self-injurers, only that there is some overlap between the two groups.
Me: You don't know what you're talking about.
Athough I will admit that in the large numbers of people in the world it has to be true that some peope cut just for attention. These people can usually be uncovered by listening to them talk. Most cutters tell only the people closest to them (spouse, close friend ect.). Attention seekers would have to let almost everyone they know about thier actions in order to recieve the attention desired. Althought I'm sure there are people who are just tired of hiding thier actions, and decide that they don't care who finds out and judges them, but that doesn't mean they will advertise their affliction. It would become increasing difficult to hide the longer you cut since you will eventually run out of space on your commonly covered skin.
My mom left when I was 3 and my dad beat me, but I adapted and overcame those obsitcles and am now a stronger person. I would never imagine harming myself.
Heres your bloody definition
Cutter - someone who cuts themselves to relieve emotional pain.
PS. sorry about any spelling errors.