A lesbian who presents somewhere between masculine and feminine, often dressing in comfortable or sensible clothing
See also: Lipstick Lesbian
See also: Lipstick Lesbian
by Sweetmothersappho May 11, 2019
A lesbian that is masculine but not butch. She’ll be into sports and wear masculine clothes like flannel and graphic tees and a suit to formal things. She’ll probably have her hair long but either nothing is done to it or it’s tied up. She might wear makeup like concealer for reasons and maybe a bit more for formal occasions
by dO I LOOK- March 18, 2021
A lesbian who is trying to be fem but can't quite get it together. She's maybe wearing mascara and a little blush, and definitely closed toed Keens, but she's not yet a lipstick lesbian.
Shoshanna used to be butch but now she's a Chapstick Lesbian - I think she's even wearing concealer!
by Travizzle June 1, 2014
Sandra is a chapstick lesbian because she is very masculine and they call themselves a chapstick lesbian
by Annabithbae June 6, 2021
A lesbian who cares more about practicality than image. She really doesn't gravitate to the traditional images of "butch" or "femme" -- she does what she wants, and doesn't really care how she's seen.
by rdlez4lyfe June 16, 2006
A lesbian that's close to the center, maybe slightly on the femme side, of the femme-butch spectrum. A lesbian on the butch side of center, might be more accurately considered a soft butch.
A very typical look is shoulder-length hair with a mens-fit tshirt, jeans, and Timbs/Doc Martens/Vans. They might wear no makeup at all or they might do some combination of foundation/mascara/concealer. They wouldn't usually do a full eyeshadow/eyeliner/falsh lashes/lipstick situation. Alternatively, chapsticks might lean towards athletic clothing like sports bras, basketball shorts, and muscle tanks. Formally, they might wear a suit jacket over a more feminine shirt or a women's fit button up rather than a suit or a dress. Other typical chapstick clothing items include looser-fit jean jackets, leather jackets, flannels, collared shirts, beanies, and baseball caps worn forwards or backwards. To see a variety of chapstick looks I would search up King Princess, Amy Ordman, Samira Wiley, Gaby Dunn (who is actually bi, not a lesbian), Ashley Perez (I believe she identifies as queer), Ava Palazzolo, Breanne Williamson, AmbersCloset, and Ally Hills on instagram (all of whom are really great queer creators/influencers/celebrities to check out if you happen to be looking). Also on TV check out Casey in Atypical (also bi); Yorkie in the San Junipero episode of Black Mirror; and Alex, Nicky, and Poussey in Orange is the New Black.
A very typical look is shoulder-length hair with a mens-fit tshirt, jeans, and Timbs/Doc Martens/Vans. They might wear no makeup at all or they might do some combination of foundation/mascara/concealer. They wouldn't usually do a full eyeshadow/eyeliner/falsh lashes/lipstick situation. Alternatively, chapsticks might lean towards athletic clothing like sports bras, basketball shorts, and muscle tanks. Formally, they might wear a suit jacket over a more feminine shirt or a women's fit button up rather than a suit or a dress. Other typical chapstick clothing items include looser-fit jean jackets, leather jackets, flannels, collared shirts, beanies, and baseball caps worn forwards or backwards. To see a variety of chapstick looks I would search up King Princess, Amy Ordman, Samira Wiley, Gaby Dunn (who is actually bi, not a lesbian), Ashley Perez (I believe she identifies as queer), Ava Palazzolo, Breanne Williamson, AmbersCloset, and Ally Hills on instagram (all of whom are really great queer creators/influencers/celebrities to check out if you happen to be looking). Also on TV check out Casey in Atypical (also bi); Yorkie in the San Junipero episode of Black Mirror; and Alex, Nicky, and Poussey in Orange is the New Black.
Friend 1: Hey, do you think I'm butch or femme?
Friend 2: Neither really... I think you're more of a chapstick lesbian.
Friend 2: Neither really... I think you're more of a chapstick lesbian.
by anon1358 July 15, 2019
A female homosexual whose gender identity is slightly to the femme side of neutral on the femme-butch continuum of gender presentation but whose appearance and preferences stop short of those of a "lipstick lesbian."
"But butch lesbians have had little to no representation on television in the US: Ellen's two "chapstick lesbian" sitcom characters are the closest we've come." (AfterEllen.com)
by meboo February 10, 2004