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2.
A closeted gay man's wife. It is her sole obligation to control the needs of her spouse's butt in order to keep his homosexuality at bay, so that it does not bring shame to the family.
That arrogant bitch? That's just his Butt Queen.
by death proof May 12, 2011
 
1.
The female partner of a closeted bottom. She rules his butt, controlling whose allowed in and around him, in order to protect their public image.
"Hey man, did you see Tom's new girlfriend? She's so hot!"

.... "That arrogant bitch, she's just his butt queen."
by Andrew211 May 20, 2011