They aren't necessarily bad guys but are absolute pussies because they don't have the balls to own the bad things they do. They could fuck the whole god damn world and STILL feel rejected!.
It's hard for this guy not to feel lonely. Most of his friends will either 'grow up' themselves and move on OR continue some sick pseudo relationship to 'use' the poor asshole.
They know how to make a connection.
Their dysfunction seems to be in keeping it.
You're just the ego driven player whose looking for an ego stroke, not a friend. Sorry.