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When a man is wanting to date/have sex with a woman and that woman keeps him around, even teasing him, but never indulges him. The man is known as a 'bench player.'

The term refers to the likeness of an athlete sitting on the bench, waiting to get in on the game.
John "You hear about Mike? He's got a hard on for Erin."
Chris "Yeah man, she flirts with him but won't date the guy."
John "He's totally playing the bench on that one."
by Stardog Champion January 12, 2011