1. Pre-2000s, the word is used to describe a person (male) who is generally social and positive to friends, family, and anybody he associates. He is dependable, means well, and looks out for people he's close to.
In the dating pool. Some guys discovered they can come on too hard and be rejected, so they decided that if they become 'nice' and act friendly to the girl, she would grow to trust him and later allow him to take her. Even if she wasn't looking for a relationship or already has someone. Unfortunately, once he realises, the guy becomes resentful and views her as a slut for sleeping with one person she's committed to, or stupid enough to date a bad boy (note that any male that already claims his girl, regardless of look, criminal history (existing or nonexisting), or personality, will be the 'asshole').
Thus, they are people who always whine to themselves (at forums, to each other, or a hapless victim) wondering why, as they're such a 'Nice Guy'. It's become a word that's taken an ironic meaning.
2. An annoying self-designated third-wheeler who puts an unhealthy interest in a couple's relationship, but won't talk to or socialise with girl's own boyfriend. But will completely slam her to friends the minute he realises that she won't cheat/dump boyfriend, let alone do the 'pity-fuck' for him regardless if she feels chemically attracted to him or not. Thus causing a whole line of insults to be written about her online.
Dean: "Check this guy over there, next to my girlfriend. He creeps me the fuck out. But I'm not sure if he's a nice guy or her new gay friend."
Steve: "Dude, he skulks around her like a vulture. You're gonna need to break it to her later."
A young male who will give up countless hours of his time listening to the problems of his very attractive female friends because they need someone to talk to about their apathetic, Baywatch jock of a boyfriend because no one else will listen or genuinely care. Although always surrounded by beautiful girls the nice guy can’t get a girlfriend or even facilitate the alleviation of certain “drives” because his “ordinary” physical appearance will forever be compared to the Baywatch beach bum’s. The nice guy would never capitalize on a vulnerable girl, objectify or cheat on a girl, he will go out of his way and bend over backwards to help his “friends” and will never ask for anything in return but no matter how intelligent, understanding, humorous, compassionate, trusting or loyal the nice guy is the female cohort will always pass him up and endure any length of abuse, objectification, apathy and cold-heartedness from a man if he has physical attractiveness, fashion, big muscles and chiseled facial features.
The nice guy will eventually realize that his dependability and empathy will never be appreciated and all his friendships with females are all one-sided. This coupled with years of watching girls go for tanned, muscular jerk-offs with nice cars while he desperately hopes someone will realize that how viable he actually is will spawn and incubate the nice guy’s insecurities and he will eventually abandon his views, dumb-down his speech, take-up weight-lifting and sw...
A male who can't get a girlfriend, never mind get laid, because he DOESN'T treat women like shit.
Bud is a 21 year old vergin because he's a nice guy.
A man who you can call late at night just because you're looking for someone to talk to. He would never speak ill of anyone, never harm a person unless absolutely necessary, never cheat and is always honest. Will help you move just because you're friends and doesn't ask for favors in return. Isn't sleazy and wouldn't take advantage of a person in a drunken or mourning state.
Often times, this nice guy doesn't have a girlfriend because women usually go for jerk
s and just make friends with the nice guy.
Pity for him, don't you think?
A man who has rejected the societal notion of masculinity
and chosen to define himself from the inside out instead, realising that traits such as empathy and nuturing are not actually limited to the female of the species, and nor are aggression and assertiveness limited to the male.
Despite this newfound revelation, however, there is still a strong genetic predisposition for humans to continuously behave as if we were animals seeking out the alpha male with those genes most suited for surviving in a hostile environment.
Often times, the average woman, whom society encourages to indulge in her weaknesses and surpress her strengths, is a self-loathing masochist who may appreciate the nice guy's friendship and understanding, but feels no attraction toward him because his insecurities remind her of why she hates herself. Therefore, she almost always seeks the dominant, aggressive, unempathic male with whom she can vicariously live to make up for her weaknesses. Of course, this inidividual, commonly known as a jerk
, is also usually an egotistical, disloyal, and shallow person for whom societal dictates of masculinity will force him to disregard his mate's feelings and treat her as if she were beneath him.
Feeling emotionally unsatisfied, the female will then turn to her nice guy friend, whom she has long since castrated, for comfort, and complain to him about how men s...
the person every girl will compare their would-be boyfriends to, for they possess every trait a woman desires. However, for whatever reason, women avoid them like the plague.
"I'd never date Jimmy in a million years, but he sure is a nice guy"
A badge of martyrdom. Men who spend their most of their time whining about how women “just want to date jerks”. Oblivious to the fact that no one finds people who feel sorry for themselves attractive, much less people who blame others for their lack of success. Most self proclaimed “nice guys” are just as self-centered and misogynistic as the jerks they gripe about, they are just much more spineless. To stupid to figure why women don’t find them attractive, they conclude that in order to get laid they must treat a woman like shit.
They tend to befriend women with the expectation that women owe them something more than friendship, then get all pissed off when the women tells them she’s not interested. Often going after women who are already in relationships, they misrepresent their intentions and try to use emotional manipulation and the facade of friendship as an excuse to get closer to them and score with them.
The sort of man who will give my definition a thumbs down. :)
Nice Guy: Why don’t women date nice guys like me?
Honest Girl: Because, you have no self-esteem and you have to blame other’s for your problems.