How To Spot Emotionally Unavailable Men:
Also useful for spotting the physically and spiritually unavailable men!
He has a girlfriend
He’s recently separated
He has a long distance relationship
He’s very reliant on text messages, IM’ing and email for the majority of his contact
They’re ambiguous about the status of the relationship
You’re not sure when you’ll hear from the next, even though you’ve been dating them for a while
You think you’re in a relationship, but it’s closer to a booty call
He says stuff like ‘If only the timing was different, you’d be the perfect girlfriend’;’If only things were different I’d definitely marry you’
When you try to tackle the status of your relationship or any issues, he either tells you what you want to hear and then returns to his normal behaviour or he just skirts the issue. One way or the other, you wind up back at square one.
He lives with his ex
He shares a bed with a woman that he claims is his friend
He admits that he is dating multiple women continuously
He’s not over his ex – openly
He says he’s over his ex but he’s quietly still trying to cope with the end of the relationship
He mentions his ex or things that happened between the two of them often
He’s an overt mother lover – mummy’s boy
He’s a mother hater – has an overtly negative relationship with his mother
He doesn’t call when he’s supposed to. Ever.
He’s one big walking excuse.
You feel empty after you sleep with him.
He creeps out after sleeping with you even though you’ve been together for a while
He has a stringent routine that he just won’t deviate from – sometimes a sign that he has someone else
He won’t take calls either before or after a certain time – often a sign that he’s cheating
He doesn’t come around to your place until late
He is resistant to involving himself in your life
He talks about his problems, his successes, his life – it’s me, me, me all the way
He determines the momentum of the relationship – you meet up when he wants to meet up
He pushes for an ‘open’ relationship
He never refers to you as a girlfriend, partner or any form of significant other
He uses sex as his way of demonstrating his so-called ‘emotion’
There are pockets of time when he seems to just disappear, and then he resurfaces with little or no explanation
It feels like he blows hot and cold
He’s quick out the gate in pursuing you, gets your attention, and then goes into a slow canter
He tells you that he has a lot of issues that he needs to deal with
He actually says ‘I’m not ready for a relationship’ but is still with you
He says he wants to get married, but there is no sign of a ring, no sign of a date and years are going by
He can’t commit to anything, no matter how miniscule – everything that he’s asked, such as whether he can do something with you is a big drama to get him to say yay or nay
He’s got about as much emotion in him as a stone
He may try and sleep with you on the first night
Girl 2: He's an EUM gurl. Run away before he breaks your heart!
Girl 1: =/