Default woman: A 'default woman' waits in the wings - month after month and year after year - hoping to rise from insignificance to Significant Other.
A default woman prides herself in the depth of her love and the strength of her commitment, although her position is consistently 'backseat.' She is adept at posturing and jumping at opportunities. She delights in crumbs. She plays her cards with precision (the nostalgia card, the family card...), while holding tightly to all the reasons/proof he should be with her. Sadly, the default woman does not understand that her eagerness to accept this diminishing role causes others to diminish her also; or that if she were able to cherish herself, she would be opening the door for others to see her value.
by Pam SexCoaching.com January 23, 2011