A person in your life (usually friend of friend or coworker) that you get along with and enjoy overall company but will cut you down with virtually any opportunity with mostly backhanded compliments or jabs. Always roots for you to do good but just not better than them. Normally stemmed from some jealousy to any or all aspects of your life. ( similar to a hater but get along with them)
He was happy that I completed my project so quick but made sure to tell me his was faster. He is such a frenemy
by Pipelayer35 January 5, 2016
Someone who acts as your friend while having alterior motives. Winston Churchill is credited with first coining this term while discussing America's involvment in WW2.
"America is Britains first and only Frenemy. It is this country which will help with one hand while taking with another".
by CAalfie March 22, 2012
A person with whom you may have a lot of fun and/or a lot in common, who also has a vile and random dark side. These relationships are worth doing a cost/benefit analysis on. Also, limiting relationships with frenemies to non-SO relationships is a must. Why? Because it’s ultimately all about them after all, and you will need to be in a position to get away from them for indefinite periods of time. Know too, that you will probably become their frenemy as well—because you won’t be able to keep from talking behind their back. If this happens, don‘t expect everyone to get it—some will wonder why this person enrages you so much and others will wonder what you see in them.
It is recommended for your own safety/sanity that you limit yourself to one frenemy at any given time in your life.
by WhoWantzToKnow July 11, 2008
A person who pretends to be your friend to get connected to other people you may know and then blows you off once they are connected to your friends. They are very smooth and everyone thinks that person is great until they are eventually traded up by this person for another "better" social connection. They are social climbers and usually the social "leader" in the group. No one wants to reveal this actual frenemy for fear of backlash from the rest of the group. The frenemy will actually put you in a bad light to other people behind your back without making it seem like they are talking about you and actually spill anything you may have told them to others without making it seems they are telling a secret. Be aware of the frenemy because they will have your friends alienate you to be their friend. They are fake and although you may be a smart one to recognize them, others may not and exude praise upon them until they've been tricked by the frenemy.
Susan just told me that Vera made her sad by yelling at her for no reason. Susan said all she tried to do was tell Vera that she was wrong about changing her plans to go shopping. Do you think Susan may be Vera's frenemy? Vera hasn't said anything about the argument at all until I spoke with Vera and she stated that she tried to politely inform Susan that she was not up to go shopping without giving details about a personal situation and Susan just kept at her until she blew up. Yet Susan has told the whole group about the fiasco and everyone feels bad for Susan.
by Kimiyasa March 13, 2010
Only time can tell a friend from a frenemy down the road. Do you experience any of these symptoms in your "friendships"?
1) when socializing frenemy eagerly waits for you to say something that he can exploit to his own advantage to make him look smarter and you look dumber, weaker and inferior.
2) Frenemy takes, he doesn't give, if you show up at the pizza parlor and you're hanging out with some friends, all of a sudden you realize, whoops you don't have any dough, so you ask your friend who already has pizza and soda if you can borrow some money for pizza. No is the answer, followed by a joke at your expense. All your other "friends" laugh As you roam around like a jackass watching everyone else eat pizza.
4) competes with you in an unfriendly type of way. Has to one up you if you accomplish something or scoffs and says anyone can do that
5) he talks shit behind your back
6) Acts differently when in groups than with just you
7) Steals shit from your house, car... Borrows things never returns them. Has no respect for anything that is yours because frenemy has no respect for you.
8) Still acts open with you after all this when you encounter him, because he's having too much fun stealing and sabotaging things in your life.
9) I could probably get that girl, but you probably never could because...type of bs
10) Mimics your expressions with offensive exaggeration, like your laugh or things you say to make you feel worse about yourself
1) when socializing frenemy eagerly waits for you to say something that he can exploit to his own advantage to make him look smarter and you look dumber, weaker and inferior.
2) Frenemy takes, he doesn't give, if you show up at the pizza parlor and you're hanging out with some friends, all of a sudden you realize, whoops you don't have any dough, so you ask your friend who already has pizza and soda if you can borrow some money for pizza. No is the answer, followed by a joke at your expense. All your other "friends" laugh As you roam around like a jackass watching everyone else eat pizza.
4) competes with you in an unfriendly type of way. Has to one up you if you accomplish something or scoffs and says anyone can do that
5) he talks shit behind your back
6) Acts differently when in groups than with just you
7) Steals shit from your house, car... Borrows things never returns them. Has no respect for anything that is yours because frenemy has no respect for you.
8) Still acts open with you after all this when you encounter him, because he's having too much fun stealing and sabotaging things in your life.
9) I could probably get that girl, but you probably never could because...type of bs
10) Mimics your expressions with offensive exaggeration, like your laugh or things you say to make you feel worse about yourself
Frenemy: "Hey Jersey, what's happening tonight player? I'm going down to meet all these college girls tonight"
Wiser-xVictim: "where?"
Frenemy: "They're up in Binghamton"
Wiser-xVictim: "Binghamton, that's 5 hours away, what the hell do you want to drive all that way for a bunch of girls you don't even know?"
Frenemy: (frustrated tone) "Because of the girls man, come on!"
Wiser-xVictim: "Oh and you need me to take you up there don't you?"
Frenemy: "Well obviously, player you my boy "
Wiser-xVictim: (scoffs)"Bitch I'm about as much of your friend as a used diaper splattered all over the bathroom is a friend to a janitor at a preschool. You mooching, treacherous, shady, frenemy. This should have been something I told you Mano a mano to your face months ago. Stop wasting my time with your stupid plans, and most importantly stop bothering me. You are about as useful as a hole in the bottom of a coin bag. Don't ever call this number ever again SUCKA! "
Wiser-xVictim: "where?"
Frenemy: "They're up in Binghamton"
Wiser-xVictim: "Binghamton, that's 5 hours away, what the hell do you want to drive all that way for a bunch of girls you don't even know?"
Frenemy: (frustrated tone) "Because of the girls man, come on!"
Wiser-xVictim: "Oh and you need me to take you up there don't you?"
Frenemy: "Well obviously, player you my boy "
Wiser-xVictim: (scoffs)"Bitch I'm about as much of your friend as a used diaper splattered all over the bathroom is a friend to a janitor at a preschool. You mooching, treacherous, shady, frenemy. This should have been something I told you Mano a mano to your face months ago. Stop wasting my time with your stupid plans, and most importantly stop bothering me. You are about as useful as a hole in the bottom of a coin bag. Don't ever call this number ever again SUCKA! "
by MojoMac2323 November 29, 2018
by Nun yah November 21, 2007
A "friend" a "bad friend" who cares only about themselves. A friend who gets their way no matter the cost, and who they step on along the way. One might stay in a "frenemy" situation because they are fearful of this person. Also known as a toxic friendship.
Classic example: when your best friend steals your boyfriend of three years she was a frenemy all along.
by HSMF's April 2, 2008