The name that swingers use to describe their culture. A couple can be in the lifestyle by attending events and becoming familiar with what goes on. They do not have to participate in the swapping and group sex that occurs there. Those that do participate are said to be active.
You two are a nice looking couple. How long have you been in the lifestyle?
When someone presumes you are, or pretends to be, intensely normal. Living in a world where only monogamous and proper sex occurs, (no group, gay or illicit) where no-one ever does drugs or speaks out politically and everyone can afford expensive furniture.
John and Mary arrive home late from a group sex hot tub party to discover their daughter's boyfriend Rocko is over visiting. Rocko is stunned as his girlfriend's parents light up a joint and offer it to him. "Why so shocked Rocko?" says John inhaling, "we're not oprah normal you know. *koff!* *koff!*"
verb; In the swinging lifestyle when one member of a couple has sex with a member of another couple, who they are not attracted to. They do this so that their partner can be with someone who they really like.
1. Sure we can have a 4-way with that couple, I won't have to soldier.
2. No way I'm going to swing with that couple again, I'm tired of soldiering with that creepy guy!