to go one's own way, enjoying the pleasure of the here and now and ignoring what others think.
to live according to the values you appreciate and the qualities you've gained
"...I take pleasure in the details. You know... a quarter-pounder with cheese, the sky about ten minutes before it starts to rain, the moment where your laughter becomes a cackle... and I sit back and I smoke my Camel Straights and I ride my own melt" (Troy Dyer, "Reality Bites", the movie)
I'm often told that i'm doing everything totally wrong, that i'm a loser. I simply say I'm riding my own melt.