The unfortunate result of participating in a relationship with a womanizing bastard who habitually refers to you as a roommate or buddy even after years of being married or in a serious relationship. the act of being tom'd can lead to anger, dismay, denial, and ultimately complete and utter hatred and disgust for all men.
wife/girlfriend enters restraunt where "tom" is eating with a female
tom (to girl at table)- "have you met my roommate"
girlfriend - "we've been married for 4 years..."
girl at table - "damn girl you got tom'd big time"