In a D/s
relationship, that very special place the submissive
enters when he/she totally trusts his/her Dominant
, and totally immerses in an intense scene
. The sub may not be capable of making rational decisions about his/her safety and well-being at this point.
It is the responsibility of the Dom
to provide for the welfare of his/her sub, as he/she has trusted him to do. It is also the Dom's responsibility after the scene to help the sub to return to "vanilla
space" after the scene. This entails providing both physical and emotional assurance to the sub, until he/she regains his/her sense of self, and is known as, "aftercare".
Dom: "Sweetie?" Hey... it's time to come back. You made me very happy today, and I love you." <Kisses sub on the neck>
sub: "Sir? Sorry... i was gone for awhile. You know, in subspace. i'm so happy i made you happy. i'd really like to do that again sometime, if it pleases You".