Masturbation or manual sexual stimulation on another person in the morning upon waking up.
John did a handwake to help him wake up in time for class.
Jane did a handwake on John this morning in bed.
Acronym. Discerning Ethical Slut. A person, usually female, engaging in consensual non-monogamy, but is characteristically selective with whom s/he has relations and thus will have fewer partners than the typical slut. Variation of "ethical slut," a term from the 1997 Dossie Easton narrative "The Ethical Slut."
Jane is a DES because she has been engaged in consensual non-monogamous simultaneous relationships with John, Rick and Steve, who all possess characteristics necessary for her to date someone: wealthy, attractive, intelligent.