There is a very big difference among "gay friendly" women. Here are the three main categories:
FAG HAG = A straight woman who likes to be around gay men because they make her feel special, desired and beautiful. Usually she is none of the three. You may think she is a good friend, and she may be friendly enough (and intense), but never forget this: it is all about HER. (EXAMPLE: Joan Rivers)
FRUIT FLY = A straight woman who sincerely loves to have fun with gay men. She loves the freedom she can have with a gay man without the sexual tension of friendship with a straight man. You tend to see each other as "girlfriends." She is often pretty, attractive and maybe even beautiful. (EXAMPLE: Sharon Stone)
QUEEN BEE = A straight woman who cannot get a straight man in her life, so she attaches herself to a gay man and owns him. She may not even particularly like gays, but you are the one man she can control, and control you she will. In time she will alienate many of your friends and before you know where you are you will realize that you have no life apart from her. Some may even be perceived (wrongly) to have a mean streak. Really mean women do not like gay men, or men in general for that matter. (EXAMPLE: Martha Stewart)
Now as to HOMO HONEY, I cannot comment. Perhaps it is a generational thing. (EXAMPLE: Lady Gaga?)
Look at HER! Artistic couture, flawless make-up application, fat but with perfectly fitting clothes... She MUST be a fag hag. No ordinary woman could be put together so well with so little.