1. A person who cannot handle the reality of his or her own life, and compensates by overindulging in the realities of the lives of strangers.
2. A severely damaged person who cannot be helped, who helps other severely damaged people who cannot be helped, unless they become friends.
3. A person who becomes hostile or violent toward the threat of intimacy.
4. An alcoholic abuser.
When my father died and I needed support, my social worker friend went out drinking ("processing") with her other social worker friends, then completely broke contact until she felt I was well enough not to try and talk about it anymore.