An ex-gay is someone with a homosexual
orientation who typically enters a conversion program / ministry / therapy in an attempt to become heterosexual
. Not all (but most) conversion programs are religiously based.
Although there is no question one's behavior and how they view themselves may change, there is a great deal of controversy if an ex-gay's core sexual orientation
and attractions can ever change. Many ex-gays are little more than celibate homosexuals who continue to struggle while others are now married to members of the opposite sex and have "traditional" appearing families.
Ex-gays are disproportionally white, male and Christian. However conversion programs exist for secular and Jewish individuals as well as lesbians.
Randy was once an out gay man but has since left that, entered conversion therapy and is now an ex-gay and married to a woman.