In the classic Five Man Band in fiction, the Lancer is the second string to the Hero, who often has the opposite personality to him. The best known example would be Han Solo, who is the Lancer to Luke Skywalker's hero.
Don't think of yourself as my second banana, think of yourself as my Lancer.
The reason so many people are embarassed to be white. The white equivalent of "niggas" as in Chris Rock's bit "Black People vs Niggas"; there's white people, and then there's rednecks, and rednecks have got to go.
While it's true not all douchebags are rednecks, all rednecks are douchebags.