of stalker believes that he is in love with
you. To show his keen interest, he keeps calling you, dropping by, writing
e-mails, doing unsolicited errands "on your behalf", talking
to your friends, co-workers, and family, and, in general, making himself available at all times. The erotomaniac
feels free to make
for you legal, financial, and emotional decisions
and to commit you without your express consent
Moreover, no amount
of denials, chastising, threats, and even
outright hostile actions will convince the erotomaniac
that you are not in love with
him. He knows better and will make
you see the light as well. You are simply unaware of what is good for you, divorced as you are from your emotions. The erotomaniac
determinedly sees it as his or her task to bring life and happiness into your dreary existence.
The best coping strategy is to ignore the erotomaniac
. Do not communicate with
him or even
acknowledge his existence. The erotomaniac clutches
at straws and often suffers from ideas of reference. He tends to blow
out of proportion every
comment or gesture of his "loved one".
Secretary: Hey, your
ex-boyfriend left you another message.
Boss: Next time he calls just hang up, or better yet; pay attention to the caller ID and don't pick up at all!
Secretary: Didn't you break up with
him like 3 months ago?
Boss: I did. But according
to his psychologist, my ex suffers
from Erotomania. That's why I've broken up with
him over 20 times, but he just can't take "no" for an answer, despite the fact that I got a restraining order after he got his hands on a fake marriage
our names on it and showed up with
it at my parents' house
during the Christmas holidays. The psychologist tells me that ignoring
an erotomaniac is the best
thing to do to make them back
off. So now, I'm ignoring
him completely. I'm pretending
that he doesn't exists
and I would appreciate if you did the same.
Secretary: Of course.